Three things to do

A quick sequence for focus and regulation

When your child is feeling restless or unfocused, Three Things to Do is a simple tool that activates her memory and gets her moving. It’s quick, interactive, and builds confidence by challenging her to recall and follow instructions.

Materials needed

• None.

Instructions

1. Give three actions. Say, “Let’s play a game. Do these three things: touch your nose, jump up, and clap your hands.”
2. Let her try. Ask her to repeat and perform the actions in order.
3. Add a twist. For an extra challenge, change the sequence or ask her to add her own action to the list.
4. Celebrate success. Cheer her on when she gets it right, and gently guide her if she needs help.

Tips

• Start simple. Use easy, familiar actions like “spin around” or “pat your head.”
• Adapt for age. For older children, increase the number of actions or add more complex instructions.
• Make it silly. Add humor with exaggerated or funny movements to keep her engaged.

Expected outcome

• Improved focus. Helps her practice holding and following multiple steps.
• Regulation through movement. Provides a quick way to channel restless energy.
• Confidence boost. Celebrates her success, encouraging persistence and self-regulation.

Why this works

Three Things to Do activates working memory by requiring your child to hold and execute a sequence of actions. This strengthens her ability to stay focused and adapt to changes—key components of cognitive flexibility. The physical movement also helps release pent-up energy, calming her body while engaging her mind.

By breaking focus into manageable chunks, this tool builds her confidence and reinforces her ability to regulate emotions and actions independently. The fun, interactive nature of the activity ensures it feels engaging rather than stressful, making it an effective quick-use tool.

Further reading

For insights into how memory and movement intersect, read Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five by John Medina.

Final word

Three Things to Do is a fast, interactive way to redirect your child’s energy while building memory and focus skills. Use it as a playful reset when she’s restless or frustrated, and enjoy how this simple game brings laughter, connection, and renewed concentration. Share your experiences in the comments below!